Friend of convenience?

You know how last week I told you about my friend who disappeared off the face of the planet?? Well that day she actually responded back to my facebook message!! Coincidence?? Anyway she told me that she wasn't ignoring, just really busy plus she lost her cell phone and didn't have my phone, and to give her a call so we can catch up. Lame.

I get being busy but it takes what 2 minutes to return a quick call? Even if she did loose her phone, I called the girl a few times so she defiantly got the number back. And if say she didn't have my cell number, she could have called my house line. The line that I've had since I was 5 and the number I know she knows by heart. Or if she didn’t remember she had my e-mail. All these ways she could have gotten back in touch and didn't.

My question to you is what do I do? Do I just forget about it can call her back? At the very least to just check in and make sure her life is okay? I've come to terms with the fact that we will never be as close as we once were but does that mean I should sever all ties???

What would you do?

How much is that doggy in the window?*

My best friend has been on the hunt to adopt a dog lately. That is ALL she talks about. She is constantly on pet finder looking for a dog to adopt. This past weekend we even went to the local SPCA to look at the dogs.

Here’s the thing, there are thousands of dogs that are in need of a good home. My friend however is being extremely picky about which dog she should get. I get that she wants to get a dog she will love and it’s okay to be a little picky but she is taking it to the extreme.

She wants a smallish dog that is weird looking but cute. Meaning she wants a lap dog, that doesn’t look like a normal dog that you would see on the street. She hasn’t found a lot of them, and the few that do pass her strict standards have already been adopted.

It’s been a week of searching and she is about to throw in the towel. I told her that if she was going to give up that easily then she shouldn’t get a dog, because they are a lot more work then searching the internet for hours on end.

I get where she is coming from but at the same time, I know there are so many dogs out there that are stuck in pounds and stuff because they aren’t cute enough. When we went to the SPCA I was immediately drawn to the 2 dogs that everyone else seemed to be ignoring. My heart just breaks for them. If I had a better job with hours that meant I could take care of them properly I would have totally adopted them. Unfortunately I am stuck at home and my mom is busy taking care of her own dog.

One day soon I will be able to get another dog, and you better believe I will be getting the “reject dog.” Because all dogs deserve a good home, even the ugly ones.

*If you are thinking about getting a pet, ADOPT one don't buy one!

Walking on sunshine

This past weekend was beautiful weather wise. It made me aware that spring is on its way, even though we still have a while to go. But this weekend made seem much closer. It even smelled like summer. Which I know sounds weird but summer defiantly has a distinct smell. I took my dog for a walk by the beach and he loved it just as much as me. He LOVES the sand and jumping in it. It makes him one seriously happy dog.

In other news I have off this coming Monday and to give myself a little break from work I decided to take off Friday and stretch it into a nice four-day weekend. I am very excited. It will hopefully re-energize me. I need it desperately.

Will you be my friend?

I totally failed again at blogging. Well here I am better late then never. Beware it’s a long post, but please read through because I need your help!!

I want to talk about something I feel like I’ve talked about before but when I checked back I couldn’t find the post anywhere so I hope I’m not repeating myself. Anyway.

I want to talk about making friends when you get to a certain age. In elementary school making a friend was something that occurred on a daily basis it seems. Middle school you kept those same friends and maybe a few more were added to the mix. Same goes for high school. I’ve known my best friend since I was five years old.

When you go to college, if you’re like me and go to a place where you don’t know anyone, you have to make a new set of friends all over again. At first I had no idea what to do. Then gradually I began to open up more and made wonderful friends. I was lucky.

I got along great with my roommate and we befriend 5 other girls that all lived on the same floor. For the next four years those girls would be my rock. I never had to worry about finding something to do or someone to hang out with. With them we could always find something.

After college while a lot of my friends stayed in Baltimore I went back to Jersey. I had no job lined up and even though I loved going to school in Maryland I could never see myself living there.

Back home I went, and here is where I ran into trouble. In college I lost a lot of contact with friends from high school. Either because of fights, growing apart, or I wasn’t that good of friends with them to really bother staying in touch. I came home to my best friend, somehow even with going to school 7 hours away from each other our friendship never diminished, and one other girl who lives 45 minutes away. Oh and one other girl who I used to be best friends with but who is more like an acquaintance. We have lunch with each other once in a blue moon.

Each weekend I find my options of doing stuff very limited. I only really ever have plans with my best friend and we usually meet up with some people wherever we go. It’s not like I don’t have friends. It’s just that they all live far away and planning things with them take time. I miss being able to just meet up with someone on a whim.

My question is where do I make more friends?? How do I even go about it? There are some girls that I work with that I could see myself hanging out with but again they all live in the New York so again if I wanted to hang out I would have to make a plan and travel over an hour to do so. Plus going out at night is a problem because the trains to NJ stop running at 1 am.

Also the thing is I’m not really bothered by the lack of friends I have at the moment. I’m not the type of person who has tons of friends; I’m the girl that has a few very loyal friends. And that’s okay with me. I am also the kind of girl that loves to have my alone time. I am defiantly the type of person who could go on vacation by herself and have an amazing time. In fact I have done it before.

Since I work so many hours every week by the time the weekend comes I am craving my alone time. So I can recharge my batteries so to speak. Plus I only get to see my best friend on the weekend. I really see no problem with the situation at hand.

The problem is with my mom and brother. The constantly make fun of me. Seriously, my mom who’s almost 60 and my brother who is 29 and STILL living at home make fun of me for having “no friends”. Honestly I am sick of it. When I do manage to say something back they tell me I need to relax and they are only kidding around, but they aren’t. I wouldn’t mind it so much if they did this in private, but they do this in front of other people. Especially my brother, whenever someone is over he somehow always manages to bring up the fact at how much of a loser I am because I have no friends.

I’m at a loss for words and I don’t know what to do anymore. I could try and make more friends but really that would mean hanging out with people I didn’t like from high school, or I need to find some way to shut him up. I know he never will though, because this is all he has on me to make fun of.

My brother is 29, living at home, and is a teacher’s aid barely making any money. He’s a mooch off my mother and instead of going back to school so he can become a proper teacher, he decides to play video games. Really he is just a sad man who constantly tries to relive his high school days instead of growing up. The only reason he has the job that he has now is a friend who got him the job. Before that he was unemployed for TWO years.

What do I do? I can keep ignoring it, but what really bothers me is when he does this in front of others. How do I get it to stop??? And maybe I do need more friends, so I could use some tips there as well.

MIA

Sorry that I have been MIA. I feel like the whole blog world has been MIA lately. It must be one of those things I guess. Work has been really busy, plus I couldn’t really think of anything to say on here. Even though this is my personal space on the internet to write whatever, I don’t want to constantly bore you with the mundane details of my life. I find myself wishing my life was more exciting, so I would have better stuff to blog about. Sadly, even though I am determined to make this year better then last, 2009 have been pretty boring.

Also I feel like January flew by! I cannot believe that it is already February. I’m glad though, because I am defiantly ready for warmer weather. Last night we got a bunch of snow and my commute home was no fun. I was THIS close to calling out of work today. I told myself that if my train was delayed I would just go back home and play hooky. Sadly, and very surprisingly, the trains were running on time. Oh well.

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that I’m still here and will post a real blog hopefully tomorrow!

Who does that?

I don’t know why but for some reason I tend to attract crazy people. Honestly I have tons of stories I could tell about some crazy person who decided to take an interest in me. My mother really loves these stories because she says stuff like this only seems to happen to me.

I’ve had people come up and start talking to me about how they left their husband and are getting a divorce. I had some psycho on the train sitting behind me thinking it was okay for him to try and run his fingers through my hair. YUCK. I still shudder when I think of that. Once after one of my knee operations, while I was waiting outside for my mom to bring her car around, a man came up to me and started praying for my lost soul and trying to save me. He didn’t stop until I was in the car and my mom was quickly speeding away.

Now it’s become so common that I’m pretty much used to the crazies. If anything it’s another story for me to tell people. Except for yesterday.

As I got out of work yesterday and started my usual journey to the train station this man standing by a van started walking toward me. He started calling me “lovely” and kept asking for me to come to him. THEN he actually started walking toward me and tried to give me a HUG. Honestly now, who the hell does that?? What stranger sees someone walking and decides that they want to hug them and consequently scare the crap out of them.

I got really scared that I all but broke out into a run, and got away from him as fast as I could. He kept calling after me asking where I was going. Are you serious?? What was I going to do? Turn around and give the creepster a hug? I just kept walking, checking over my shoulder every minute to make sure he wasn’t following me.

Now usually I can laugh these things off, and I did when I was safely home. But I keep thinking that that could have turned really badly. Even though I was in the city and there were a lot of people around, what was stopping that man from full on attacking me and dragging me to his sketchy van?

I’m seriously thinking about buying myself some pepper spray. That was not cool.

Has anything like this happened to you? Do you attract the crazies like I do?