Monday, November 10, 2008

Pet Peeves

One of my biggest pet peeves is when a person doesn’t act like themselves and/or pretends to be someone they’re not. It drives me crazy. If someone doesn’t like who you are, don’t change yourself. You’ll never feel comfortable in your own skin if you do this.

I mentioned a while ago that my best friend is dating a guy who is just not right for her. Well, sadly they are still seeing each other. I told her my concerns and she just told me to not worry that she’s just having fun and this won’t ever get serious. Even though from the looks of things it is getting really serious really quickly.

Anyway, last night she asked me if I wanted to come over and watch the football game with her and RM. You could have knocked me over with a feather. My friend? She HATES football. She thinks it’s boring and doesn’t even know what is going on half the time. Now she is voluntarily watching football with this guy? What the hell? I know more about football then she does and occasionally goes to games, but I don’t pretend to be a huge fan or know more then I do. I think it’s lame to do things like this just to appease a guy.

I never thought she would do something like this. I have never seen her pretend to be into something just because a guy is. I mean she hates football so much that she refused to go to games when we were in high school. Even now, when the homecoming game happens and thousands of alumni show up for the game each year, she refuses to go. Even to just see people from high school. I can’t believe she is not acting like herself. You better believe that when I talk to her today she will be made fun of for becoming THAT girl. I just hope she doesn’t keep this shit up.

Also I wanted to note that I understand when girls do stuff just to spend more time with a guy. I get that. Especially when you’re still in the get to know each other phase and you want to spend as much time as possible with the person. What I don’t like is going over and above and pretending to love something that you hate. There are other things you guys can do to spend time with one another, one that would actually make you closer to one another.


Karen said...

LOL. I agree that pisses me off when people are fake. Especially pretending for a man....The Worst!!

But when I was dating my ex, I took interest in things that interested him. I watched movies, went to concerts, ate at steakhouses, etc. that I would never choose to do on my own.

If you are building a relationship, there has to be some give and take in that area.

And I even enjoy some of "his interests" now that we are no longer together.

Alexandreena said...

I agree. Although, much like Karen, I was willing to try things my ex was into and some of them I ended up enjoying myself. Others, I tried once, figured out wasn't for me and suggested other ways we can spend time together.