Tuesday, September 30, 2008
I really need thicker skin. If this keeps up I will get discouraged easily and stop applying for jobs. That’s the last thing I want to do. Any tips on how to keep my head up? Or how to stand out to potential employers?
All in all, I just want to get on with the next chapter in my life. For some reason I feel like it will be great. I didn’t feel this way before when I first started applying for jobs. I don’t know why but it just feels different and I know I won’t make the same mistakes. I’ll just make new ones, and I can’t wait for it!
It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.
Monday, September 29, 2008
Why is that when you go to the doctor you wait for so long only to see the doctor for 15 minutes? I got there at 3 o’clock and I didn’t see the doctor until 4:15. I was out of the office just after 4:30. That is ridiculous. But there is nothing you can do, you just have to grit your teeth and pray for the doctor to move faster.
Other than that though it was a great day off. I woke up crazy early because of my internal alarm, but it was okay because I got to watch Zach and Kelly get married on Saved by the Bell. I really miss morning TV. I also caught up with my shows that were on my DVR and enjoyed some amazing PIR (Price is right for all those not in the know). I really miss Bob, but I think that Drew Carey does a pretty good job.
Oh and I forgot to mention the best news! My brother got ENGAGED!!! I am so happy for him. They went away to the mountains for the weekend for my brother’s birthday and he proposed to her there. We don’t really know how exactly he proposed because he isn’t chatty like that. No matter, I’m just happy that he is happy. He leaves tonight to go back overseas and we won’t see him again until January. I will miss him.
This weekend was my friend’s birthday and it was pretty hectic. A lot of her friends from school came down so it was great for her to see everyone and have everyone be together. Lots of drinking was involved. We ended up on Saturday going to this place on the boardwalk and I didn’t really have dinner so after 2 drinks I really started to feel it. They were having a special on Bud Light so lots of drinks were consumed. It was a lot of fun and the place was great because it was crowded but not to the point where you can barely move.
The next day I was really hungover. I never get hangovers. I’m the girl that can drink all night, wake up bright and early and go to work. Sometimes when I first wake up I feel a little gross but yesterday I was a mess. I had a huge headache, dehydrated and super cranky. I wouldn’t have minded it if I stayed home all day but I had to go to my grandma’s. We had a Mass in my grandpa’s name to mark the anniversary of his death so we all had to go up there and since I missed it the last couple of years, due to me being at school, I had to go. I was not in good shape. I had my makeup on still from the night before, my hair was a big frizzy mess, and I’m pretty sure I was still drunk at first.
How do you explain to your 85 year old grandmother what a hangover is?? She thought I was really sad and kept on asking me what was bothering and who is making me so miserable. lol. She even tried to take me into another room to see what was really bothering me. Apparently me just saying I was tired didn’t cut it. There was no way I was going to tell her the truth though. I just went through the day with my grandma thinking I was depressed. She made gnocchi which is my favorite and that made me feel a lot better, also the massive amounts of water that I drank too. All in all it was a great weekend.
How was yours?
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
I would like to bestow this award to the people who I began reading when I first started blogging. They’re the ones that inspired me to blog and/or to keep up with it! If I could I would give this to everyone on my reader but there is a lot so I figured I would start with those that I started with in the very beginning. Check them out they are awesome!
Blogs I Love:
Karen from Smiling Through it All
E. from Like Spinning Plates
Alexandreena from A Toast to Shoes
Adventure Grrl at 100 days in Bed
Also while I am on the topic of blogging another first happened to me. I got an e-mail from a website asking for me to review it. It said that if I review their site I could either get one of their products or payment. I don’t know if this is for real or just spam. Does this happen ever to any of you? If so what do you about it?
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
- There was a man preaching to people on the platform today while I was waiting for the train. Why? Do you think us commuters are really bad sinners or something? I’m sorry but the last thing I want to deal with while waiting for the train is someone imposing their religious beliefs on me.
- I am loving this fall weather. I’m so excited that I spent a lot of money on fall/winter clothes this past weekend. I’m even seeing some trees start to change colors! Oh how I love when that happens!!
- I’m taking a half day off of work this coming Friday. It’s for a doctor’s appointment but even so I’m so excited to leave at one.
- Tomorrow is my best friend’s birthday. We’re calling it her Champion birthday because a psychic told her that it’s your champion year when you turn the same age as the date of your birthday. AKA she’s turning 24 on the 24th.
- Mine will be when I turn 28.
- If this is true it really sucks for people who can’t enjoy it, ala a one year old.
- I am also loving having new television to watch. My DVR is getting full and I love it. Tonight I am looking forward to watching a new episode of House.
- I sent out a bunch of resumes out today at work. I know this makes me a terrible employee but when the weekend comes the last thing I want to do is sit in front of a computer.
- I think I made a pretty decent cover letter for these applications. Let’s keep our fingers crossed.
- I am not keeping my hopes up with anything I send out. I’m tired of being disappointed all the time. Whatever happens, happens. I will just move on to the next thing.
- Even though it is fall, I can’t believe that people are already talking about Halloween. I cannot believe time is going by this fast!
Will you dress up for Halloween? If so what will you be?
Monday, September 22, 2008
Also I forgot how much it sucks to write cover letters. I feel like all of mine are so generic and people can just read right through them. Ugh. It’s so frustrating! I never know what to say. I want to sound interested and genuine but not desperate and/or sound like every other cover letter out there. I am actually trying to write one now and I am stuck. Really really stuck. I’m to the point where I can’t really bear going to work anymore, but I know I can’t quit until I find a job so I want a new one like yesterday.
Just thinking about this makes my anxiety go crazy. I just wish there was a road map or just someone to tell me to start HERE. You know? Then last night we had a couple of people over and they all talking about how much they lover their jobs and can’t wait to go to work tomorrow and blah blah blah. It got me even more frustrated because that’s what I want to be like. I don’t care about money; I just want a job that I look forward to. Is that really too much to ask for??
P.S. Happy fall everyone! I cannot believe that it is already fall!
Friday, September 19, 2008
The best is that my mother, who’s a nurse, doesn’t seem to either care and/or believe that I’m sick. When I first told her this she told me to take a vitamin. A VITAMIN. I had no idea that a vitamin can cure a sore throat, congestion, and a nauseous stomach. Did you know that? Then this morning I was in a pissy mood because I don’t feel well but I still have to work, man I really wish I were still in school this would have totally be a “play hooky” day. Anyway when she asked me what was wrong, I was told her that I felt worse then ever. Her response, “Well if you would have listened to me and taken a vitamin you wouldn’t be like this”. Seriously. My mother who is a Director of Nursing where she works told me this. Um last time I checked vitamins help you stay healthy and strong, it’s preventative NOT a cure. That only made my day that much worse. Where is my mom when I was younger who would tell me everything will be okay, force me to stay home, and make me delicious pastina and anything else I wanted? I know I’m in my twenties and supposed to be a “grown-up” but days like this I want my mommy back!
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
How's your week been going!
Monday, September 15, 2008
I'm too lazy to write a real post today. Instead I bring you Bullet points! Full recap of my brother's visit coming soon!
- At my job we are switching servers for our e-mails. It is a mess and I haven’t been able to check anything ALL day. It’s driving me crazy.
- On top of that work is still stressing me out. So bad that my gastric reflux is back in full swing and Tums have become my new best friend.
- Even though I hate my job, it has made me stronger and able to say “No” a lot more often in my personal life. It is finally teaching me how to put myself first in life.
- This weekend is the first weekend in months that I don’t have a lot planned. It will be devoted to looking for jobs and sending out my resume.
- I’m still not sure what I should do next, so I’m sure my search will be random.
- I’m hoping to get better results this way.
- This past weekend was a blast. I was so happy to see my brother and or little get together turned out to be a pretty big party
- Everyone seems to like his girlfriend. I give her a lot of credit because she held her own the whole weekend. It’s one thing to meet someone’s family, quite another to meet everyone that is important in his life.
- I think my brothers have a deeper respect for me after this weekend. Especially after showing off my beer pong skills. I lost every time, but held my own throughout the game.
- My mother decided to try and belittle me at every moment during the party.
- People have finally realized the hell she can put me through, and how unfair she treats me compared to my brother.
- She still has no clue that she does this.
- Other than that this weekend was a blast!
Thursday, September 11, 2008
I was especially worried about a family friend who worked there. I’ve known him all my life and he is like a father to me. He’s actually been more of a father to me then my own dad. He was the one who I was most afraid for. By some miracle he had a doctors appointment that day and was still in New Jersey when it happened. Being the floor he was working on, he would have passed away had it not been for that appointment. Some weren’t as luckily as him. I remember going to wake after wake, my heart breaking every time. A lot of these people were my friends’ father or mother. I stood there in awe at the strength that these people had to move forward and not let this tragedy rip them apart.
So today I ask you to not only remember the people who lost their lives on that day, but also the family and friends of the victims. Keep in your heart who they are and what they had to go through. How they picked themselves up and went forward with their lives. I could not imagine the strength that they had to do such a thing and I can only hope to learn by their example and apply it to my life.
“Here is the deepest secret nobody knows.
- E. E. Cummings
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
I am looking forward to this weekend. My brother is home on break for 3 weeks and he is coming up this weekend. He lives in Maryland and even though he is on "break" he still actually has to go to his job in DC, which is why he is only giving us 3 days. Which is fine, as long as I get to see him.
Even more exciting is that he is bringing up his girlfriend to meet the family. They've been dating for like 8 months but none of us have ever met her. We've barely even seen a picture. It's getting really serious between the 2 and I'm pretty sure he thinks that she's the one. I couldn't be happier for him, but I am nervous about my mom liking her. She really hates the fact that she never met her, and already has bad things to say about her even though they've never met. She is an typical Italian mother. That and the fact that my mom secretly hopes that my brother and his ex-girlfriend from HIGH SCHOOL will finally get together. They dated more than 10 years ago and my mom still thinks that they will get back together!
Fingers crossed that everyone gets along! Saturday we're having a little party for him so it should be a good time all around. I can't wait for it!
Monday, September 8, 2008
- a spanking: that’s awesome and maybe a little bit true
- to back up: If by back up they mean to take a step back and really look at my life then YES
- your prayers: absolutely I need all the help I can get
- to make sure there aren't any conditions present that rule out having a massage due to any health risks: This one is weird, but I can say that I don’t really enjoy massages because I am very ticklish
- will continue to be met, and that she'll continue to be a light in this world for many years help: Well this one technically came from saying “Rose’s Needs” slightly different then the actual challenge but I put it up because it was a serious moral booster when I read it.
- your financial support: Umm yes. If any of you have a few thousand to spare, I would appreciate being the recipient.
- to be here to show 'em how it's done: I like this. Again a good moral booster
- a cigarette for the rest of this: I don’t smoke but I do enjoy the smell of smoke, which is really weird.
Well here’s my list of needs. I thought this was really fun and very enlightening. What are your needs?
P.S. - I'm still new to this whole thing. Can anyone please tell me what MEME stands for? It's driving me crazy!
Friday, September 5, 2008
If you want to tell people voluntarily whom you are voting for and why, go ahead. I think it’s great that we can freely express our opinions and talk about things like that. That’s what makes this country so great. I feel like people tend to forget how lucky we are that we can do this. The fact that we can share, disagree, debate, and freely express ourselves is amazing. However if a person doesn’t want to share or if they happen to disagree with your views I believe that the person should still be respected, not attacked. I also believe that you should hear the person out, even if you disagree. It’s all about equal coverage. Which brings me to my point.
Last night while watching the RNC there were some disruptions during John McCain’s speech. I think that was in really bad taste. He deserved equal coverage. Just because you disagree with him doesn’t mean it’s okay to make a scene like that. American people deserved the right to hear him out and what he had to say, without being disrupted. How else can people come to an informed decision about who to vote for? I believe in getting all the facts before making a choice like that. Which is why I haven’t made my decision yet. I am learning toward one, but I’m taking my time. I still have plenty of it. Again I don’t mind that someone there disagreed with him, but there are better ways to get your point across. If anything he just made people pay more attention to the speech. Made them more interested in learning about John McCain and what he stands for. Both parties deserve equal coverage.
That is why America is so great, to get all this information and not have something slanted. Which is why I think blogs are so great. People have the opportunity to freely express who they are voting for and why. While I’m sure we don’t all agree with one another, I am seeing that everyone (for the most part) are respecting the people’s posts and not attacking them for their thoughts.
It gives me hope that no matter who wins, things will start changing in the country for the better. And no matter what, we are first and foremost American citizens and we will always stand beside one another.
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
On Friday I went to Baltimore. I met up with the birthday girl and we got pedicures and then went out to dinner to celebrate. We went to the Macaroni Grill. I have never been to one because I always think of it as fake Italian food. I didn’t love my meal, but it was a lot better than I thought it was going to turn out. However I probably won’t be going back any time soon. We got back to her apartment got ready and waited for our friends to get there so we could make our way downtown. We went to this place called Max’s that is in Fells Point. If you ever go to Baltimore Fells point is a great place to go out. It’s has a dozen of bars within close proximity of one another. The best night to go there is Halloween. It is absolute chaos. Anyway, this place has tons of beers on tap that are from all over the world. I love it because they serve Strongbow which is my favorite thing to drink but very hard to find in the States. It’s a cider, and my drink of choice when I studied abroad in London. It was a good time and there was a lot a laughs and drinking to be had. I hadn’t seen my friends since May so it was good to catch up. I only wish that they lived closer.
On Saturday the birthday girl and I decided to ease our hangovers by going shopping. We went to Filene’s Basement. I love that store and I got a new tote bag for work. Followed by DSW where I got 2 new pairs of shoes. They are amazing. Adidas and Nike make them but they look like cute flats. Which means I can wear them to work, walk around and it feels like a sneaker but look like a dress shoe. It is the best of both worlds! I can’t tell you how excited I am about them! I tried finding a picture online but couldn’t locate something that was close. Maybe I will take a picture later.
The rest of the day we just chilled until it was time for me to get going. I left there around 3 and got back home at 6:45. Not to bad but still not so fun. When I got home I had to change, eat dinner, and was out the door again. I told my friend I would drive because there was no way I could drink again so shortly. We ended up going down to Belmar, which anyone who knows Jersey has heard of Belmar and their bars. I have a love/hate relationship with them. Its fun to go there, but a pain to drive down, and the cops/bartenders/bouncers are assholes. They kind of have to be because the places get really insane. I also hate them because I got into a little trouble with the law a couple of years ago and was “arrested” for not doing anything wrong. It’s a long story and I’m still not sure if I was or was not officially arrested. I can tell you another time maybe. We went to this place called 507 Main (which is just their address but for some reason people think its an amazing name). I was a little cranky because I was tired from the night before and also the place was packed. You couldn’t even move an inch to dance. But I was glad to be out with my friends and we made the best of it. We even stayed until way past last call, which I very rarely do. I didn’t end up getting home until after 3:30 in the morning.
I passed out when I got home, happy to be back in my bed. I ended up sleeping in late, but my friend and me still wanted to go to the beach. Not a good idea. The traffic wasn’t so bad considering we took back roads and live so close but when we got the beach it was CLOSED. Sandy Hook beach that is literally over 10 miles of beach was closed. I could not believe it. I know it was Labor Day and what did I expect? But seriously I have never seen a beach actually close down. Oh well we just turned around and set up shop at her pool. Which to me was better because the pool was nice and quiet and didn’t have any jellyfish. The only thing was a bee stung me! I haven’t been stung since I was like 10 but there I was minding my own business sitting in her pool when that little shit stung me. I did no provoking and I didn’t even see it. All I felt was a pinch and then searing pain. Seriously I forgot how painful that shit is. My skin puffed up and was bright red. It looked awful. My arm is still red from it, but thankfully the swelling went down.
After that the day flew by. We decided to go out again, but this time close by and to a place that we hoped would not be packed. We went to the perfect place. It had an outside patio and there was the perfect amount of people. It was good to just sit and relax will having a beer, or in my case 7. I ended up getting really drunk. I didn’t even mean to. I just kept drinking. Then the bartender gave me a free beer on the house and that caused me to drink even more. I have no idea why he gave me the free drink. I wasn’t dressed up and I wasn’t even talking to him or trying to flirt. I just walked up asked for the beer and he gave it to me and said “On the house”. I was so excited about that! That stuff never happens to me. The fact that it happened on a really low-key night made it all the better. Needless to say that might just be my new favorite place to go. I also ended up seeing a few friends from high school, which inevitably always happens whenever we go there. All in all it was a great time. It might have been my favorite night out this past weekend, and not just because of the free drink. All the elements were there and everyone just had a great time.
Monday was spent in a catatonic state by my friend’s pool. It was a great holiday weekend and one of the best times I’ve had in a long while. I needed it to boost myself and start living my life again.
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
As I mentioned last week I was going to Baltimore on Friday for my friend’s birthday. For days I deliberated with myself as to whether or not I should go and if it was even worth it. All that traveling especially with the labor day traffic to be at a place for less then 24 hours. Thursday comes and I decided to scrap the whole idea. As soon as I came to that decision I immediately felt guilty. I felt bad about not seeing my friend and then I also felt that if I didn’t go I would be missing out on this amazing time and then I would feel even more like a loser. Friday morning comes and I still have NO idea if I should go or not. Finally at like 11:30 I tell myself to forget everything and just GO. Which I did at the worst possible time, I hit A LOT of traffic. While I was driving in New Jersey it wasn’t bad. In fact I made good time getting out of the state. However as soon as I hit Delaware I was in massive traffic. As soon as I hit the traffic, I got a major panic attack and starting crying and shaking uncontrollably. I could not calm down and because of the traffic there was no place for me to pull over and regroup.
I’ve had panic attacks before but never like this and never in a situation where I couldn’t just stop what I was doing in order to calm myself down. It was bad. Just thinking about it now is making me upset. It was just traffic and I flipped out. The thing is, I made it worse than it should have been. The whole time I was driving I kept thinking about what a bad idea this was. Every time I passed an exit I got the urge to just get off and turn back around. Then I started thinking about how my friends never make a trip up to Jersey to come and visit me. Then I started to think about my life and how much it sucks right now and how much I want to quit my job. I was thinking about how indecisive I am and how even as I was still driving I was unsure if I was doing the right thing. I used to never be like this. I never had problems making a decision and once my mind was made up there was no changing it. What happened? Is it because I of my lack of confidence that I can no longer make a simple decision? Am I just to overloaded to even be able to make decisions? I just don’t know. lol. I am a wreck.
All of that was running through my head during my panic attack. It was awful, but I finally calmed down after a frantic phone call to my mom. She helped to calm me down and I powered my way to Baltimore. Eventually the traffic went away and I ended up making pretty good time considering. I also ended up having a great time but the whole time I was out and having a good time, every once in a while I would think about the trip I would have to make on Saturday. Would it be bad or worse then it was? Will I freak out again? The closer it got to the time I was leaving the more nervous I got. I just couldn’t stop it. The traffic was pretty bad on the way back, but it only took me 45 minutes longer than it usually takes me. It actually wasn’t that bad. Also I did not have a panic attack so it was much better.
Even though this all happened a couple of days ago I can’t get the whole thing out of my head. In particular the panic attack and all those questions I have. What made me turn into this? I need to stop asking myself these questions and give myself a break. Otherwise I am going to have another panic attack soon. My acid reflux has been slowly creeping back and it’s because my anxiety is getting the best of me. I refuse to go back on medicine because I hated who I was when I was on them. I need to just step back and really figure out what I am doing. I need to make time to step back and figure this all out. I just can’t figure out when. I wish I had more vacation days, that way I could really just sit at home and re-evaluate my life. Even now writing about this, I am fighting back the tears. I am such a mess and it’s mostly my fault because I never give myself a break. I put too much pressure on everything.
Does any one have any methods they use to calm down? Or what do you do when you really need to sit and make a decision? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
P.S. – I swear this weekend has been amazing, but I just needed to get this thing off my chest before I can really tell you about it. I will post more tomorrow.