Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Rekindling friendship

This past week I reconnected with a friend. I had mentioned her before and how frustrated I was becoming with the fact that she was never calling me back or trying to get in touch with me. Well almost a year later and we finally got back in touch.

I had stopped trying to call her a few months ago because I was just sick and tired of always getting a voice mail and never an answer back. I decided that the ball was in her court and if she wanted to get back in touch, she had to call me.

At first I was really upset and angry because I consider her to be a very good friend. She’s just one of those people who is impossible to get in touch with. I know she was going through a lot of rough times and this is pretty typical behavior, so I stopped taking it so personally.

When she first called I was really surprised. Instead of just letting it go, I made sure to let her know how much it initially hurt me about what happened. I hate being confrontational but I just couldn’t let this slide. She apologized profusely and filled me in on what was going on in her life. Since I wasn’t angry anymore I did accept her apology. I’m not one to hold grudges. Plus I know this past year has been really bad on her and she just needed time to work things out.

After that, it was just like old times. She’s defiantly the kind of person that you won’t see for years but once you meet up it’s like no time has passed. It was good talking to her and about everything that has happened. She’s one of the few people who really knows everything about me and it felt good to be able to talk about things that I can’t/don’t normally talk about with others. She just gets it.

We even meet up for drinks later that night. It was so much fun! I’m really happy we reconnected but at the same time I’m not going to think this will be a regular occurrence. Even though she is back living where I live. She’s one of those friends that when we talk we get along great and then when it’s done, we just go along with our own lives until we meet up again.

And you know what? That’s just fine with me.


Karen said...

You are a better person than me. I always find if I was once really, really close with someone, I cannot go back to once in while friendship.

Just like if I dated someone, I can't step back and just be friends.

I don't know why and I wish I was more like you.

cowboyboot lady said...

There are many different types of friendships. Glad you were able to get back in touch.