Thursday, July 30, 2009

What would you do?

This weekend a couple of my friends from college are coming up to visit me. I’m really excited because I’m the one that always has to go down there. They haven’t been up to NJ in 3 years! Anyway while I couldn’t be more excited I just realized something:

Saturday is an engagement party for one of my oldest friends! It completely slipped my mind that her party was this weekend. It also doesn’t help that she never actually sent out invitations to anyone. I just know it’s this weekend because she told me about it once like 5 months ago.

Anyway I know it’s Saturday but I don’t even know when it starts or anything like that. She sent out a mass text (which I hate btw) telling people about the party but she didn’t even say a time! Oh and I didn’t even get the mass text, a bunch of my other friends got it and told me.

I’m assuming that she just didn’t mark my name while texting and that I am still invited, I’m the one who introduced them together, but I don’t know what I should do.

Do I not go and call her explaining why? Should I try and go for at least an hour with or without my friends?

What really gets me is that she didn’t specifically invite me but knowing her I know she will be upset if I don’t go. What also gets me is that she didn’t send out invitations to anyone.

While I get that my generation is all about technology and it’s viewed as old fashion to mail out physical invites and even thank you cards to people. I still believe that they should be mailed out. I think even e-mails can be tacky. The best kind of mail is the one where you open the letter with your own hands.

You’re getting married, you just bought a house, its time to grow up and send out freaking invites to people!

What is she going to do for the big day? A facebook event listing?


Anonymous said...

Wow, I didn't know people sent out serious invites via mass text! I wouldn't be too pleased either. Can you call your friend to clarify the details of the party? I would go for a little while at least and then meet up with your friends after the party. You'll have to let us know what happens.

erin - heart in ireland said...

wow, a mass text for an engagement party... i would call asking her more details and just got for a short time without your friends. they can go out to dinner and you meet them or something else similar.

and yes for serious events a mailed invitation and thank yous are proper. and you should always rsvp!